In many parts of the world, grief rituals and cultural approaches to mourning shape how people heal after loss. For Sicilians, grief is not something to be hidden or overcome. It is witnessed, shared, spoken aloud, and woven into community life. Grief is understood as a human experience that deserves expression, support, and ritual.
In contrast, much of American and Western culture tends to value emotional restraint, productivity, and a quick return to “normal.” Grief is often expected to be managed quietly, efficiently, and on a socially acceptable timeline. This push to “move on” often leaves the bereaved feeling isolated and unsupported .
By looking at how Sicilian culture models grief, we can begin to imagine healthier, more compassionate ways of responding to loss.
Whether or not you are experiencing a particular sorrow or struggle, the remainder of winter can be a reflective time; many animals hibernate in the cold months, and we humans also reach for warmth and comfort. Slowing down to engage in what nurtures and sustains us can help us through the darkest times. One way to do this is to pay attention to what’s happening in our bodies, taking a moment to notice our breathing, what we feel physically and emotionally, and what our bodies are telling us we need. Would a walk be helpful? A warm bath? Time with friends, a book, or a favorite movie? Do we need a cup of tea or something warm to eat? Taking the time to nurture ourselves can help ease some of the intense feelings we have.
Depending on others is scary; there is an understandable risk that comes with opening yourself up to someone new, especially after being hurt in the past. But it can also provide relief, connection, and joy, especially when using new skills and strategies that can protect you and support you. The chance to be seen and cared for (and the chance to care for someone else, too) is a chance worth taking; it might just take some getting used to.
